"May mga hinahanap ako na basic lang na hahanapin ng isang babae sa isang boyfriend, sa isang lalaki. Pero, masakit man sabihin, hindi ako yun. Siguro nag-fail din ako dahil hindi ako yung kailangan niya sa buhay niya. Or hindi ako yung hinahanap niya sa buhay niya. And hindi, hindi ko mabigay sa kanya yung kailangan niya."
KC Concepcion,The Buzz
Ito ang dahilan kung bakit kahit napakadali sa akin ang tumanso ng babae, at paulit-ulit, taon-taon ay sinasabi sa akin ng mga tropang lalaki (straight) na kaya akong remedyuhan at gawing heterosexual muli ay ni-minsan hindi ko binalak tumawid ng bakod at magkunwaring attracted pa rin sa babae.
They say it is for your own survival. Para hindi ka nag-iisa sa pagtanda. Yung iba naman, to mask your hidden preference, upang walang mag-hihinala na burat at tamod rin pala ang hanap mo. It's my stand, but rather than become someone's source of misery, I'd rather be out in the open, or better yet, suspend all my pretensions of opposite sexual attraction to cover up
the real me.
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Disclaimer:
Doesn't apply to guys who found out their true preference too late. They got married and had kids before they realized same-sex attraction is okay.
Five years ago, half of the men who are out today are still hiding inside their closets.
Better stay with your comfort zone. Mahirap rin kasi na pilitin mo ang mga bagay na di naman ikaw kasi ikaw rin mapapahamak sa bandang huli. Ako? Di ko pa din alam kung saan ako pupunta basta sa ngayon masaya na akong magisa lang walang inaalala.
Martin:
Mahalaga, wala kang nasasaktan sa pinili mong daan. Affected ako masyado sa statement ni KC kasi. Naawa ako sa kanya.
That's what really matters ang wala kang sinaktan o inapakang tao. Pero halata kay KC na nainsulto ang pagkababae niya sa statement na sinabi niya.
Updated tayo sa showbiz ah?! hahaha
Yup, it's more difficult to live in a lie : )
When KC Concepcion was still steadfastly standing by her man, as the song goes, I was among those who wanted to slap her upside her Palmolive-crowned head and shake her like a British nanny.
Watching that poignant interview, though, I, like you, felt really sorry for her. My heart went out to this silly, trusting girl who went out looking for "true love" and had her heart stepped upon.
Although I initially felt sorry for all the other women who are put through emotional wringers by confused/closeted/selfish gay/bi men, eventually I realized that I should feel sorry for anyone - male, female, gay, straight, or bi - who are used and deceived in the name of love.
Then again, I think that's part of the price we pay.
Amen, kuya Joms. Amen.
Poor KC. I wish she finds a man - a real man. As for Piolo - I wish his career a gracious good luck! With this break up, I think more people are starting to find out his real preference. Anyway, thanks for the post. Been wanting to hear what bloggers have to say about this issue.
Ang selfish no? But then people can be cruel at times that most of us would rather stay inside the closet albeit suffocating.
PJ is too good to be true
ang quotable quote ng sinabi ni KC.
Eon
Yeah. For those of us who are not yet out in our families, KC's case is reason enough not to force ourselves to pair with the opposite sex.
Bien:
PJ once hooked up with girls, I think, until such time he enjoyed hooking up with men, so much, he forgot what it feels like to be with a woman.
He did his best to make his heterosexual side surface with Kristina, but the problem is, he's been exposed in this kind of life too much, he can't go back to what he was anymore.
Dalaga pa lang ako, I've been hearing stories of PJ meeting up with guys - to talk, have an eyeball.
John:
You're welcome. May mga tatamaan ako with this entry, pero ganun talaga eh. KC is an eye opener.
Spiral Prince:
Thank you. :)
Rudeboy:
It's the price we pay for trusting and loving someone. Too bad, Piolo's spiritual roots is not strong enough to hold back his primal urge.
While writing this entry, I was thinking of the girls I dated/loved before. At the back of my head, I'm still thankful that I didn't pursue them.
Who would have thought that after being confused for so long, I would finally find peace by accepting who I truly am.
Daniel:
Mahalaga tanggap mo sa sarili kung sino ka talaga. Kahit magkunwari ka pa sa mundo, okay lang.
Kapag nalaman mo ang katotohanan, kung may kunsensya ka talaga, magdadalawang isip ka pa rin manakit ng iba.
too bad,kelangan kasi ni Piolo na mag gf to cover up his real preferences...at kawawang KC naging biktima lang siya...
sana nakinig siya sa madaming bading sa showbiz na kaibigan nya!haha
the only thing I can say is ... Amen! .... thanks ...
Hmmmm.... I agree with you on that.
Tao rin ang mga babae noh. May feelings. 'Wag silang gamiting pang cover-up.
Basta ang masasabi ko lang... Papa P, baka meron ako nung wala kay KC.
Try natin.
but rather than become someone's source of misery
The same explanation I have to those asking kung bakit hindi ko pinili ang "tuwid" na daan and use marriage as a cover up.
Thank you for posting this. :)
like! ^_^ like, like like!! hehe
natawa ako kay Ms. Chuni.. PAK NA PAK, madam!! NKKLK!!
@kuya joms: na-sad ako, kawawa naman ni Kristina.. :(
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